“Life is a Gift”
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This video was first played on November 2, 2007 at our very 1st Bobby Resciniti Healing Hearts Dinner fundraising event.
Bobby was born September 9th, 1984.
He was only 21 when he was killed in a car accident.
He was a Pharmacy Tech at Publix in Lake Worth, Florida and was taking Criminal Justice
in college preparing himself to be a Police Officer, a Palm Beach Sheriff to be exact.
Bobby was a dream child
Our family and the entire board of directors are dedicated to serving
our community by helping families in the healing process after they suffer the terrible tragedy of losing a child.
The following was written by Bobby’s father thirteen months after his passing
My Bobby, My Son, My Baby
Imagine someone has opened up your chest with their bare hands, grabbing your heart and ripping it out from your body, imagine the dreadful pain. But only imagine that happening and you do not die. You remain alive, in sheer agony. Agony that will continue for days, weeks, months, years —– on and on and on.
This is what I felt like the moment Bobby died. It’s in my face 24/7. I can’t escape it. The pain stays with me every second of the day, every day of the week and every week of the year. It never leaves me. The thought of what could have been. The thought of how my son, Bobby got cheated, we got cheated and the entire world got cheated.
Time stood still for me on July 13, 2006. That’s when Bobby left this world. He was only twenty one years old.
It was a normal day. I got the call at 1:08pm that Bobby was in a very bad car accident and was being trauma hawked by air ambulance to Delray Medical center. I had to make the worst call of my life that day, to let my wife Diane know what happened. She answered the phone as usual, “Hi Hon, what’s up?” I told her the bad news. She was at work and had a friend take her to the hospital. I was in Miami and did not get to the hospital until around 2:30pm.
My daughter, Michelle was visiting a friend in California and my son, Nicholas was at summer camp in Lake Worth, FL.
Once at the hospital, our family stayed in a private waiting room, we prayed and prayed and prayed. We held hands and prayed with our hearts and our souls. Two nurses came in around 4:00pm and they had a look in their eyes, they said nothing. I said, “It’s Bobby, isn’t it? He didn’t make it, did he?” They shook their heads, NO.
Our Bobby went home to our Lord and at that very moment, our lives changed forever
After an hour or so, a nurse asked if we would like to see Bobby. We said we did. My wife and I along with our family made the long walk down a long, empty corridor so we can see our beautiful son just one more time. Bobby was behind a curtain, all cleaned up from his car accident. I stuck my head behind the curtain and there he was, eyes closed and when I saw him, I knew they would never open again. The pain was so bad,,,, so, so bad….I was numb. I held Bobby, I hugged him tightly and did not want to let go. My wife came in soon after to see her baby. It was like everything was in slow motion. We cried uncontrollably. We were lost. Our beautiful baby, our Bobby was gone from us.
I held Bobby and felt this emptiness that was so painful, it defies all words
I sat holding my beautiful son, knowing that I would never again see his beautiful smile, hear his wonderful laugh or hear his warm and sensitive voice. I would never hear his funny jokes again. His wit and antics were gone forever.
Bobby was going to be a cop. We would never know the person he would have grown up to be. I do know he would have been a fine, outstanding police officer.
I walked from the room knowing that I had seen and held my son for the last time, that is — until we meet again in Heaven. I kept wondering why it was him and not me? How was I supposed to keep going on? I wanted to die and I ached to hold him in my arms again.
Never again will I feel ‘whole’. Our lives changed forever on July 13, 2006
A part of me went with him, a piece of my heart is in Heaven with Bobby and a gaping hole exists that his warm presence once filled.
I asked questions that no one could answer…… Why Bobby?
My wife and I seem to be on an emotional roller coaster. One moment I would feel pretty good and then I would see my wife curled up in a corner pleading with God to take her, at times, she just does not want to live.
We have a huge support group with our neighbors, friends and our Publix family that has made our healing better. We are not even close to where we want to be but we are better than we were one year ago. Time, it’s an amazing thing.
I will never forget Bobby. I will never forget his laugh, his wit, his willingness to please, his playful personality, his million dollar smile.
Bobby will live forever in my heart and in my memories always
Death makes him no less a part of our family. Living with the fact that our Bobby has died does not mean forgetting. It means knowing and accepting that he is gone, but still holding close those precious memories. It means that my love for him does not change and never will. Bobby’s precious life and death is part of what makes me who I am.
The loss of Bobby had an immense impact on the way I look at life, and although I wish he was still here, I know that I have grown from this horrific experience.
Bobby is with us in spirit. He is in our hearts, our thoughts and in everything we do. Every donation we receive, every gift we get is all in honor of Bobby. His work continues.
I love you Bobby and wait for the day we are together again. You are in a great place; you are with Jesus in Heaven. You are blessed and we have to wait until we get the call. Until we meet again son, we have work to do here; ALL in your name and for the good of others.
With all my love,
To a GREAT son…..Bobby
(Written by Bobby’s Father on September 9th, 2006, 3 months after Bobby’s Accident)
I always teased Bobby by telling him, the year 1984 was unforgettable because that’s the year Dan Marino played his first full season as QB in the NFL. But for all those years, I was joking with him. Truth be known, 1984 was unforgettable because that’s the year Bobby came into this world September 9, 1984 at 12:03 PM.
I remember how proud I was as a father, to be blessed with a little baby boy. My first child. The feeling was indescribable. I held him for the first time and was shaking, my heart was racing. It was an amazing experience.
The next several years were something else. To witness his first step, his first words and to hear him say for the very first time, “Daddy, I love you” was incredible. Time was moving so fast. I remember taking Bobby to his first baseball game, first football game, fishing and learning how to ride a bike. What fond memories. As a young person, Bobby had such innocence, he was shy and so caring and very sensitive. As the years went on…..he kept those qualities. He grew up and became a fine, outstanding man. He had so many great qualities that made me proud to be his father. He was honest, caring, innocent, smart, sensitive, kind, giving, loyal and funny. One of his best qualities was his humility. But above all else, he was a good human being.
Bobby was a dream child.
He and his mother were extremely close. They had a strong bond that will never be broke.
I miss seeing Bobby. I miss hugging him and hearing his voice. I miss his humor and wit. I miss his great smile.
I know he’s in a better place but the human side of me misses him so much. I can’t stop thinking about my beautiful son, Bobby…every second of the day….every day of the week.
It’s early in the morning and it’s your birthday, I am going to sit with Mom now and talk to her and pray.
Happy Birthday Bobby — 22 great years 🙂
With all my LOVE,
|A Poem I wrote for Bobby::: written by his sister – MichelleBobby you are an angel sent from Heaven above
and when God called you we knew you were loved.
You are so sweet , kind and caring but we wonder
why is this so uncanny.We looked in your eyes and never thought
this could be our last to hug, to hold or to see.
You touched so many and loved so much
I don’t even know how to say, how many you touched .Your smile went from cheek to cheek
touching everybody you would see.
I love you Bobby you are my big brother
always have been always will be like no other.
I thank you for all that you’ve done in this life
by showing Mom a good time and Dad a good life.
You showed Nick what a true role model was
he looks up to you Bobby and you are truly loved.
Now as I end this poem I say – Bobby you truly are
the Angel Baby Nan would always say.
God has you now safe and secure and we thank him for that because we really do hurt.
We may move on but we will never forget all the laughter and joy and fights we regret.
We will always see that wonderful smile when we remember a memory that lasts a thousand miles.
We love you Bobby from friend to sister thank you for your love, laughter and beautiful kisses.
Michelle Resciniti (Boynton Beach, FL)
|Bobby, Bobby, Bobby, Still to this day I can not believe you’re gone. I miss every thing about you from you’re laugh and your smile to the way you picked your to nails. I miss it all so much. you really meant the world to me uncle bob. I looked up to you in so many ways, more than you can imagine. you were and still are my hero, and I will miss you forever and ever until of course I see your bright shining smile in heaven with Jesus. I love you,Bobby’s friend, Christy Christy’s Myspace|
My brief glimpse of Bobby Resciniti
It was a Saturday night and my family and I were going to have dinner at Bob and Diane Resciniti’s home. We were excited to be going over to my close friend Bob’s home and we couldn’t wait to get there. Shortly after we arrived Bob and Diane’s oldest son Bobby came into the dining room, his smile lit up the room and even though I had only met him briefly once before at the store that I worked at I quickly felt like I had known him for years. He was talkative, polite, and a complete gentleman. I was so impressed that a young man of his age could carry himself so well. Bobby made my family and I feel welcome and he seemed truly happy that we were visiting not only his parent’s home but his home as well.
But that was only the beginning of our encounter with this beautiful person. My 3 kids were with my wife and I and of course they were a bit nervous to be somewhere unfamiliar, yes they had met Bob before and really liked him but now they were at his home. That was when Bobby took over, he took my kids into his room, broke out the poker chips and by the end of the night not only did they learn how to play Texas Hold’em but they made a new friend. My kids couldn’t stop talking about how great Bobby was. He made them feel at home. My oldest daughter Chelsea also threw in just how good-looking Bobby was and she wished she were a little older. I wondered why Bobby was such a fine young man. Was it genetic? Was it his Mom and Dad? Was it the environment he was raised in? I’m sure that all of those things contributed but here’s what I believe: Bobby was the gifted, talented young man that he was because GOD chose to pour these gifts on him to touch many lives, influence others, and to make a difference in this world. And for 21 years Bobby did just that.
Inevitably the question arises: Why did GOD allow this to happen? I wish I knew that answer, but maybe, just maybe GOD felt as though Bobby’s work on earth was completed and GOD wanted to bring Bobby home, to have Bobby all to himself. Bobby will be missed here on earth by all of the people that he touched. I only knew Bobby briefly so I cannot imagine the loss that Bob, Diane, Michelle, Nick, his Aunts and Uncles, his cousins, and his close friends must be feeling. Their loss is immeasurable. Diane said something this past Sunday. She said “I know that I am going to see Bobby in Heaven and I am going to spend eternity in Heaven with him.” As I saw the pictures of Bob and Bobby I saw a Father and a Son, they loved each other deeply, you could see it in both of their eyes. Bob and Diane: I believe that right now Bobby is looking down from Heaven with Jesus and he is saying, “Mom and Dad you did good, you did real good.” And that is my brief glimpse of Bobby Resciniti.
Vince H. 7/15/2006
I have no words that can explain how much my heart goes out to you and your whole family. Bobby will always be in the hearts of ALL that loved him. God bless you!
Eric Ursoleo (Sunrise, FL)
I attended your son, Bobby’s wake service. I have never witnessed the number of people that attended. I arrived at 6:30 and waited (happily) for almost three hours. It did not surprise me as you always made it a point to treat all people with respect and dignity. You are truly blessed. You lost your son Bobby here on earth but he is in a much better place – Heaven!
The pictures and video of your beautiful son portrayed a very happy person.
His life was cut short and God has work for him in Heaven.
I attended the Funeral service as well. The words of the priest was comforting and fitting. Your tribute to your son, Bobby was amazing. It made me understand what type of person he was. Your strength was unreal. I heard what you said and realized one thing and made me restore something very important in life….my faith.
Thank God for you and thank God for your son Bobby. He made a difference in many lives, including mine.
July 30, 2006
Bob, Diane, Michelle, and Nick I love you so much and I will always be here for you.
God Bless Katie B. (West Palm Beach, FL) —
Bob & Diane-
I just want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart for bringing Bobby into this world. Bobby was my first love and I never knew what it was like to fall in love until I met your son. Bobby showed me how to love. I will never forget Bobby my first love, my first kiss, my best friend what an amazing person he was. I will always love him. I will always be there for you and your family if you ever need anything just let me know. Thank you for all the special memories we shared with Bobby. I can’t wait to see him again when we all reunite in heaven.
I love you always.
Katie (West Palm Beach, FL
Bobby was called home too soon – his absence is deeply felt in our hearts. We are here with you to share your pain and we are here for you to support your strength. May he rest in peace…”Sweet Beautiful Boy”.
Our deepest sympathies.
Joe & Nadine & family
Nadine (Boca Raton, FL)
Bob, Diane, Michelle, and Nicholas;
There are no words in the English language in which to express our sadness. You are all in our daily thoughts and prayers. May God, with Bobby by his side, shine upon your family, and fill your hearts with His healing love.
John, Bridget, Jordan, Jamie, Joshua, and Joey (Coral Springs, FL)
Our last conversation with Bobby was how much fun he had at your cabin, his face lit up! We will miss him dearly and the friendship he had with John. Love in Christ,
Tim & Lorraine G. (Boynton Beach, FL
Dear Resciniti Family,
We cannot begin to understand the loss that you have undertaken. We know what a wonderful family you have been to Bobby and that he was given unconditional love. Please accept our deepest and most heartfelt sympathy, and know that you are in our thoughts and prayers every day.
Troy C. & family (Sunrise, FL)
DEAR DIANE,BOB, MICHELLE & NICHOLAS
IT BRINGS ME GREAT SADNESS AND MANY TEARS IN WRITING MY THOUGHTS. I CANT FIND THE WORDS TO EXPRESS MY DEEPEST SYMPATHY TO ALL OF YOU…. I DONT THINK I NEED TO EXPLAIN MY BOND WITH BOBBY & THE CHILDREN BUT THERE HAS ALWAYS BEEN A BOND.
BOBBY WAS A SHY TIMID YOUNG BOY WHEN WE FIRST MET. I REMEMBER I WOULD ALWAYS QUESTIONED HIM ON WHAT WAS HAPPENING IN HIS LIFE AND THE CONVERSATION WOULD OPEN UP WITH THAT LITTLE BOY. AS OUR PATHS WENT INTO DIFFERENT DIRECTION WE WOULD ALWAYS MEET IN PUBLIX AND THAT LITTLE BOY HAD GROWN INTO A VERY BRIGHT OUT GOING YOUNG MAN WHO WOULD ALWAYS FIND ME. IF HE WASNT BAGGING OR SEEING ME MY RX, IT WAS A LIGHT TAP ON MY SHOULDER AS I WAS SHOPPING. IT WAS A FEW MOMENTS TO HUG AND CATHCH UP ON WHAT WAS HAPPENING IN HIS LIFE. I WOULD LISTEN AND ALWAYS FINISHED UP WITH AN OPINION AND MY FAVORITE SAYING…BOBBY,..IT’S SOOO TUFF BEING LOVED AND ALWAYS REMEMBER… NO ONE LOVES YOU MORE THEN YOUR MAMA!!! HE WOULD LAUGH WITH A BIG SMILE GIVE ME A HUG UNTIL THE NEXT MEETING I WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER
BOBBY’S SMILE IT WOULD LIGHT UP A ROOM . I WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT LITTLE SHY BOY WHO GREW TO BE A VERY HANDSOME, OUTGOING YOUNG MAN. TO KNOW HIM WAS TO LOVE HIM …
DIANE AND BOB YOU NURTURED BOBBY INTO A VERY RESPONSIBABLE YOUNG MAN. I PRAY YOU FIND COMFORT AND LAUGHTER IN HIS MEMORIES. HE WAS A EXCEPTIONAL YOUNG MAN WHO WILL BE TRULY & DEEPLY MISSED.YOUR FAMILY WILL ALWAYS BE IN MY PRAYERS & THOUGHTS IF I CAN BE ANY COMFORT TO THE FAMILY AND OR CHILDREN PLEASE DONT HESITATE TO E-MAIL
LOVE & WITH DEEPEST SYMPATHY,
Dear Bob & Family:
No matter how strong your faith, there are still the “why’s” and you find yourself thinking … “Life is not fair.” Only God knows the ultimate plan for all of us and even though the hurt is seemingly unbearable in your loss, He will supply the strength for you to take one day at a time to continue your journey. My heart breaks for you and your family.
God’s peace to you in spite of this awful storm.
Pat G. (Auburndale, FL)
Diane,Bob & family
My words most certainly can not say all that I feel, but I want you to know that I am so sorry, I will and always will remember you in my thoughts and prayers. What a wonderful son you have raised, what a blessing to all he will always be. Just knowing him makes us all blessed and more rewarded in life.
Ida K. (Boynton Beach, FL)
To Resciniti Family,
Bobby was the luckiest kid in the world to have a family as caring and loving as yours. Your strength and your genuine love and compassion for people brought friends and co-workers together in harmony to honor Bobby’s life and passing.
I have never witnessed that many people paying respects since a passing of a president.
Bobby was indeed a saint in our eyes.
Bobby was looking down on us from heaven and knows now how many people loved him, even without ever meeting. That is the power of love and the fruits of being good people. May we all learn that love comes around to those who pass it on. This was certainly a strong message to all who witnessed this blessed event.
May God give your family the strength to carry out Bobby’s legacy until the day you meet again.
Dear Bob and Diane,
I wish I could say “This too shall pass”… but you and I know a part of you is missing, until you can be with your precious Bobby again. The days, weeks, months ahead will be difficult. Take it “one day at a time”. I will continue to keep you, Michelle and Nicholas in my prayers, that the Lord will comfort you during the difficult days ahead.
Love you and God bless you,
Laura O (Boynton Beach, FL)
THE FOLLOWING IS A POEM I WROTE SHORTLY AFTER BOBBY LEFT US…
Our hopes, once so high, have fallen.
Everything feels empty.
A promise, a laugh, even when we cry.
Our hopes have fallen.
We need to feel you, need to see a sign.
We are selfish, because what we really need is you.
Our spirits, the very same ones you lifted so high, have fallen.
But you….have not.
Your hopes, your laugh,smile, tears and spirit live.
They live in the lives you’ve touched.
The hearts you’ve filled.
The memories you solidified while here.
You are not empty, neither is your memory.
So forgive us for falling, because we did so hard.
Know that because we love you, it will be possible
to rise again. In every smile, every laugh and cry…
we will rise for you.
Bobby’s Friend….Andrea V.
Bob, Diane, Michelle, and Nick,
Bobby has left behind a thousand moments that will live in your heart forever and the hearts of everyone who loved him. We are so sorry for your loss. You are in our thoughts and prayers.
Ed and Maria R. (Coral Springs, FL)
Written on July 13, 2007 — one year later
Bobby, a year has gone by since you left us and gone to see Jesus. This was the fastest year of my life yet. I feel like I closed my eyes and the months flashed before my eyes. I think that that was good for all of us in a way. But I wish I could have put my life in rewind and start all over again. All the way to the day when we first met. It seems like only a year ago in Geography class when you sat across the room from me along with only 4 other guys in the class. We never really learned much because we would talk to each other most of the time. You looked so cute sitting a couple rows across from me, always smiling with your glasses on and most of time wearing a button down shirt. And every once in a while you would come over and sit by me and give me the answers to our homework and you would write on my paper. I fell in love with your hands first, I was so amazed that you were left handed. Little did we know we developed the most beautiful thing in that class room. A relationship we would remember for the rest of our lives. You asked me to prom that year but I couldn’t go because I was only a sophomore and my parents thought I was too young. Months went by and we kept in touch but it wasn’t until I was a junior and you were a senior that we realized that we had something special and special is not even close to describing it. I wish so badly I could go back Bobby. The first time I fell in love was with you and you made every minute together so wonderful. I even got my very fist kiss from you. I remember you were so nervous. We could talk about anything to each other. You would tell me all the amazing stories of your past and what you wanted for your future. You loved your naps and back rubs. You hated spiders! You loved to do things for people. You loved to make people smile. You LOVED to spend your money. You loved to write me a note every class, every day and tell me exactly what your doing and how your feeling. I kept every single one. You loved buying me anything for no reason at all. Sometimes when I wasn’t’t home you would leave me gifts by my doorstep. You loved music. You had to listen to it all the time. We would sing so loud wherever we went. I loved singing with you. You loved to cuddle. You loved holding my hand to the point your hand was so sweaty. But I never cared. You loved to talk, to the point you were tired and you started sleep talking to me and you wouldn’t’t remember what you said. I loved it when we danced in your room or wrestled and I couldn’t take anymore. Or when you would pretend to be a cop and tell me “Miss, your under arrest!” and you would act like your putting me into a cop car. I would laugh so hard. Also every single time you would walk me to class or say goodbye to me, you would say “I love you so much, MUAH!” and blow me a kiss. It never failed. I could go on and on with these memories but it seems like they went by way too fast. It seems like only yesterday. I never stopped loving you Bobby. I couldn’t stand to be apart from you or get through one day without talking to you. Almost every morning last year my phone would beep and I knew that I had a text message from you. We called each other every day and talked about our day or our problems or you would tell me that you didn’t want to go to work. And almost every week we would meet up in your Acura and sit and talk or listen to your I-Pod. It was our little secret, until Amy caught us : ). I looked forward to going to PBCC just so I could see you before I went to class. It was the sweetest thing. I remember you taught me how to shoot my first gun. I was so nervous but you calmed me down by giving me specific instructions. You stood right behind me and made sure I would be okay. You were so proud. When the summer came along, we made plans to hang out more often with my sister. I remember calling you about signing up for fall classes and we wanted to take a English class together. You ended up losing your phone and I called you about 10 times because I didn’t know what happened. Then you called from work and you said “I think I lost my phone!” you told me to call your house phone at 12:30 the next day and we would sign up for classes together. The next day July 12th, I called you house phone and your mom answered. She was making you lunch. I thought it was so sweet that she was making you lunch. You got on the phone and we talked about classes and it turned out that we signed up for the same class! I said “Bobby! It’s like we have the same mind!” and you said “yeah we do!”. I was in a hurry to go somewhere so I ended our conversation pretty quick but I was so excited that we were going to take a English class together. I said bye to you and went throughout my day. Little did I know that would be the last time I got to hear your sweet voice. I ended up going to that class anyway. It was tough but I did very well and every time I went to that class there was an empty seat right next to me. I’d like to think that was you sitting next to me. This year was very tough on all of us. I didn’t think I could get through it at first, I wanted to sleep through it. Life without you here just wasn’t the same and it still isn’t. I think about you wherever I go and anyone who didn’t know you, I tell them all about you and how special you are. I feel like you are watching over me. Because of your wonderful family I still can feel your presence and they make me feel so much better. I know you are with them. Thank you for bringing them into my life Bobby. They are so special to me and they will always be family to me. Thank you for always sharing your love with my family too. You loved my sister so much always giving her big hugs or telling me on the phone “Tell Amy I love her!” And being Aaron’s first best friend. You were the first guy to ever come into Aaron’s life and he loved you tremendously. Aaron always talked about you. You always bought him gifts. You were like a big brother to him. My mom and dad loved you so much and I know they couldn’t of asked for a better guy to date their daughter. I hope you know that you will always be in my heart and no man will ever take that away. I truly believe you have been looking after me and I think in my mind that you helped send me Mike. I never thought I would find love or happiness again until I met him and almost everything he does for me reminds me of you. God has truly blessed me. Bobby I miss you so much and I’m never going to stop missing you. Even 20 years from now I’m still going to be talking about you and missing you so much. I am going to miss you until I see you again. My heart will be aching for you until I will be able to hold you again. One year today and this still isn’t easy and it never will be. I feel lost without you Bobby and I still just want to call you and pick up from where we left off. Being with you were some of the best years of my life. I love you Bobby, so so so much. I wish there was a word that could describe better how much I love you. But you will always be my Bobby, my first love, my everything, my hero that left work to come and change my tire when I had a flat. and got your uniform all dirty. I love you and I will see you again.
MUAH MUAH. ALWAYS & FOREVER
Love always, yours always,
Bereaved parents learn to live with the memories, the lost hopes, the shattered dreams. [They] never ‘get over’ the death, but [they] do recover, adjust and learn to live with [the] pain. – DONNELLY 1982, X
Bobby —- Michelle —- Nicholas
|Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
1 Corinthians 13:13